Forgiveness and Learning
to Forgive for Good
Fred Luskin
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What You’ll Learn:
- What a lack of forgiveness does to your mental & physical state
- How learning forgiveness increases hope, optimism, and vitality, and decreases stress
- Practical tools to start transforming your ‘story’
Fred Luskin
Dr. Fred Luskin has completed extensive research on the training and measurement of forgiveness therapy. His research demonstrates that learning forgiveness leads to increased physical vitality, hope, greater self–efficacy, enhanced optimism and conflict resolution skills. It also shows that forgiveness lessons the physical and emotional toll of stress, and decreases hurt, anger depression and blood pressure.
He has worked with men and women from both sides of the violence in Northern Ireland who have had family members killed and with different groups of financial advisors after the stock market crash of 2000 to enhance their conflict resolution and stress management skills.
Dr. Luskin is the author of the best seller Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness and Stress Free for Good. He has worked with many organizations and has trained lawyers, doctors, church leaders and congregations, hospital staffs, teachers and other professionals to manage stress and enhance forgiveness all over the United States. Dr. Luskin’s work has been featured in Time magazine, O magazine, Ladies Home Journal, U.S. News and World Reports, Parade, Prevention as well as the New York Times, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, U.S.A. Today and the Wall Street Journal.
Frederic Luskin, Ph.D. is the Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects and an Associate Professor at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. He also serves as the Co Chair of the Garden of Forgiveness Project at Ground Zero in Manhattan. To Learn more about Dr. Fred Luskin you can visit his site here: http://learningtoforgive.com/
“Have You ever been over weight?” Priceless! =D
Wow! I Literally asked this question to God yesterday, how to ‘more effectively, or do better” at forgiveness, and is that, in fact, what I need to do? Because there are potentials for being hurt again, how do you get clear and see what the healthy ways are for relating to others as well as forgiving. I am excited by the potentials of stories! Also, since June, I have kept a note book of what I am thankful for or joyful for that day right before sleep. It has been a great help for quieter nights and feeling better the next day!~ <3 Thank you!
Its amazing how things come to you just when you need them most! Glad that you got so much from this interview. I like the idea of writing different stories too – its so easy to get wrapped up in the stories we have written for ourselves that you can forget that the can be other ways of looking at things.
I guess I need to watch this first before Lisa! hehe
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So this is quite amazing stuff…. To learn to accept… To forgove, whilst still acknowledging the pain
It is a brilliant approach to forgiveness. Merci.
Great!
for dr luskin, fat people just overeat. as for my gastroenterologist, mutritionist, cardiologist….
Never thought of myself as a victim – but realise that IS what I tell myself.
I am starting a gratitude journal TODAY. Thank you for this insight. I thought I’d forgiven SO much, but realise that it was an intelectual forgivenss not truly an emotional forgiveness. Time to grieve properly for losing my father 60 years ago, and all the stories since. Thank you!
So wonderful to hear Joy!!
Keep us posted.
Den 🙂
I really loved this guy. He said things about forgiveness that I never even thought about. I’m getting his book for sure. Thank you Jon.
Hi Sybil,
I agree, its nice to know that we don’t have to be powerless – that there are ways to take back the control.
Den
It is so true. Learning to forgive takes time and effort. The hardest is to be able to forgive ourselves. Thank you Jon, thank you Dr. Luskin. I loved when you said “perhaps you have not grieved correctly or properly…” We need to grieve properly and this is what we do and teach others to do when we celebrate the Day of the Dead in Mexico. It is a healing process that akes time but helps us to grieve in a healthy way. Gracias!
Hi Laura,
So glad to hear that you enjoyed this interview.
Den 🙂
Hello,I couldnt join this video yesterday, is still available ?
Can you please send me the link to see it?
thanks!
Cecy
Hi Cecy,
This interview is a recording and is available any time you want to listen to it.
It should start as soon as you come onto this page. If it doesn’t please contact our team at help@thegabrielmethod.com and they will be able to sort this out for you.
Den
I loved this… It totally resonated with my situation.
Hi Andreams,
So happy to hear that 🙂
Den
Marvelous . Spirituality interwoven in every day life holds the power. Thank you.
Glad you enjoyed this interview Gay!
Thank you for this. I appreciate the calibre of experts you bring to us Jon. So many forgiveness approaches don’t include the essential step of acknowledging/expressing the feelings, before you can go on to make peace with no. Also, I love the connection between gratitude and forgiveness in changing our stories.
Hi Roxanne,
Thanks for the great feedback. I agree, learning to actually feel your pain is so important to healing.
Den
Great interview, wonderful “empowering” inspiration on forgiveness. It has shined some light on where I may still have some forgiveness to embrace, letting go of old patterns, beliefs, thoughts and really embrace a more powerful story of where I am today because of my history. Thank you Dr Luskin and Jon.
By the way, some of Jon’s audio went out around 27 minutes in. Thankful though that it wasn’t the whole remaining 5 minutes. 🙂
Hi Sylvia,
Thanks for letting us know about the sound problem 27 minutes in.
I particularly enjoyed the concept of telling a different story about your life – and how empowering that can be.
Glad you enjoyed the interview.
Den
Is this over? I got bumped out…and the event now says “over”?
Hi Nancy,
Please contact our team at help@thegabrielmethod.com and they will be able to sort this out for you.
Kind regards
Den
did not 🙁
Oh Sarah… this class didn’t help at all?
got the definitions OK, but how is the process? how can I be grateful, forgive & let go???
Hi Sarah,
I think the first step is to try to retell your story to yourself. Put a different perspective and avoid creating an enemy in the story (even if that enemy is you). Your left brain will fill in the gaps and your subconscious will begin to believe that new story. Or if you can’t give up on your story, just tell your left brain another story, that might not even be true. This will help the healing. Being grateful for the little things in your life will help to push out the bad chain of thoughts that your brain constantly reverts to. A lot of it I think is, just creating a new set of habitual thoughts to crowd out the memories that cause you pain. Does this help?
Den
I’m awake at 1 am here to learn how to forgive…
Sarah, another great resource is available at CNVC.org which is compassionate communication, or non violent communication. I get the impression you have suffering and want to ease that pain, through forgiveness. You may find it helpful to first learn to listen to yourself, and what you are feeling, feel compassion for your own experience and deeply acknowledge the hurt that is calling you to move to forgiving another. When you are clear about how you have been injured and you can see the other person’s point of view with compassion also, I expect you would be much of the way to forgiveness too. I hope that helps. I am working on forgiveness also, and I was glad to see that this speaker did not say you just try to put hurts in the past. In the written part it includes separating from the people places and things that cause injury as well.