EMOTIONAL LIFE – KEY POINTS TO REMEMBER

Emotions, specifically negative emotions, communicate to the brain that in some way you are not safe. As the FAT Program is designed to protect from threat, turning it on in response to negative emotions is practical and natural.

Connection to FAT Program

Negative emotions, whilst described and experienced differently by individuals, ultimately end as a fear, required to be responded and adapted to by the brain. Fear is stress, and stress turns on the FAT Program.
Coach focus is to connect clients emotions to their FAT Program, prescribe proactive techniques (visualisation, tapping, other) for changing dysfunctional beliefs, and use tools to create positive emotional states.

For Client


Negative emotions, like guilt, sadness, anger, jealousy, grief even boredom, are all in some way connected with you not feeling safe. The FAT Program is designed to keep you safe so when these emotions are allowed to become chronic, or experienced at intense levels, the most appropriate response to keep you safe is to turn on your FAT Program.

Fortunately these emotions don’t just come out of nowhere and therefore can be changed. We create our own emotions and fortunately have the ability to change them. The key is to go to the source. Beliefs generate emotions.

Visualisation is one powerful tool we use to change your dysfunctional beliefs and replace them with positive beliefs, generating emotions of hope, optimism, joy and love.

These feelings, emotions communicate to your brain, you are safe. Your FAT Program is turned off and weight loss becomes easy and natural.

For Coach

  1. Negative Emotions - most people to some degree experience negative emotions. It is the intensity, consistency and duration of these emotions which determine their influence on the FAT Program.
    Negative emotions are ultimately interpreted by the brain as fear and thus trigger a stress response appropriate to keeping the body safe = FAT Program ON

    Negative emotions (listed in order of intensity, from low to high)

    • Boredom
    • Pessimism
    • Frustration/irritation/Impatience
    • Overwhelm
    • Disappointment
    • Doubt
    • Worry
    • Blame
    • Discouragement
    • Anger
    • Revenge
    • Hatred/Rage
    • Jealousy
    • Guilt/Insecurity/Unworthiness
    • Fear/Grief/Depression/Victim
  2. Dysfunctional Belief - a powerful example of a mind/body connection. Clients may be strongly conditioned in belief they can’t lose weight based on their failed previous attempts. This belief is dysfunctional and incorrect. It is not the client’s fault but the approach that is flawed.
  3. Stress - GM for many clients is seen as their last hope in successful weight loss. A long history of unsuccessful attempts creates emotions like discouragement, anger, blame, guilt and even jealousy. These emotions create mental stress, increasing cortisol and triggering the FAT Program.

Diagnosis

Application Form

  1. Note medical diagnosis for mental health conditions (depression, anxiety)
  2. Note medical diagnosis for conditions often associated with chronic negative emotional states (eg. IBS, autoimmune dx)
  3. Note length of time from initial weight gain
  4. Note number of attempts of weight loss
  5. Note age of client
  6. Note if client has read GM Book and action taken since

Signs and Symptoms

  1. Note client use/intensity of negative emotion driven language when describing their past, present and future.
  2. Note client use/intensity of negative emotion driven language in reference to weight loss
  3. Note client understanding and appreciation of GM approach to weight loss

FAT Trigger Quiz

  1. If indicated as a significant Trigger

Questions to ask

  • How would you describe your normal emotional state
  • Do you feel you can solve your weight problem
  • Do you have support in your life
  • Do understand GM’s approach to weight loss

Coaching Actions

Core Action Steps

  • Morning Visualisation
  • Evening Visualisation
  • Daily GM Break(s)

Specific Emotion Action Steps

  • Challenge any dysfunctional beliefs, beliefs are the source of emotions.

    Use the space of Morning Visualisation, Evening Visualisation and/or Daily GM Break(s) to ADD and/or SWAP

    1. Visualisations: use specific visualisations (listed in Resources) to target and change client’s dysfunctional and limiting belief (eg. I can’t lose weight, My family are all fat, etc)
    2. Power Words in SMART Mode: have client simply visually imagine any word/phrase being absorbed into and changing behaviour of their cells.
      SMART Mode (Super Mental Awareness Re-education Training Mode) occur in alpha and theta states. SMART music achieves this state however any activity allowing client to get highly focussed or very relaxed. (eg. painting, gardening, fishing, etc) gives this opportunity.

      For less stress
      - Relax
      - Life is easy
      - Life is flow
      - All is good

      For changing feeling of lack/limitation
      - Abundance flows to me
      - Infinite abundance

      For emotional obesity
      - Safe
      - I am safe
      - I feel safe

      For mental obesity
      - Weight loss is easy
      - Effortless weight loss
      - I am naturally thin

    3. Breathing Technique

      Deep rhythmic breathing is associated physiologically with relaxation and low stress, safety. At any time when stressed have a client follow this procedure to induce a state of physical calm.

      Focus on a good memory, something you really enjoyed, a time you were really happy. Close your eyes, breath in for 5 seconds, breathe out for 5 seconds as you breath in the positive emotions attached to the memory into your heart.

      See Video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bHB6cGHdpE0

    4. Generate positive emotions to turn off FAT Program

      Use the space of Morning Visualisation, Evening Visualisation and/or Daily GM Break(s) to ADD and/or SWAP

      1. Visualisations: use specific visualisations (listed in Resources) to create positive beliefs and emotions
      2. Make positive thinking a habit

        Positive emotions derived from positive beliefs and thinking habits can turn off a client’s FAT Program.
        Positive emotions which do this are:

        • Hopefulness
        • Optimism
        • Enthusiasm
        • Passion
        • Joy
        • Freedom
        • Appreciation
        • Love

        Radiating Love: Chapter 6 pg 50
        Radiate Forgiveness: Chapter 6 pg 51
        Radiate Forgiveness: Chapter 6 pg 52
        Accept the Negative : Chapter 6 pg 53
        Be Abundant : Chapter 6 pg 55
        Find your Passion: Chapter 6 pg 56, 57

    5. Turn negative emotion into a positive response with movement

      Encourage client at any time when feeling negative emotions to move (particularly quickly and with intensity). Stress is open for interpretation by the brain and the client’s response determines the adaption. If stressed and movement results, storing energy via FAT Program is not appropriate. More likely the same stress, with movement as the response triggers the GTGE stress response, where creation not accumulation of energy is more appropriate.
      In this way, any stress can be manipulated to a positive effect on weight loss.

    Resources

  • Encourage client to attend Ask Jon, Ask Melinda , Ask Desiree shows in SG, with specific question(s)
  • GM book :

    Chapter 3 Mental Causes of Obesity “Beliefs that get in the way’ pg 25
    Chapter 5 Eliminating the Non physical Causes of Obesity Using SMART Mode
    Chapter 6 Using Positive Emotions to Turn Off the FAT Program

  • SG Group :

    Jon’s Blog
    Stress and Obesity - http://www.thegabrielmethod.com/members/stress-and-obesity/
    Feeling safe, strong and protected - http://www.thegabrielmethod.com/members/feel-safe-strong-protected/
    Communicate to lose weight - http://www.thegabrielmethod.com/members/communicate-to-lose-weight/
    Jon’s Blog - Power of Meditation - http://www.thegabrielmethod.com/members/power-of-meditation/

  • Visualisations

    Main Library

    • Living Goddess
    • Living Warrior
    • Safe Strong and Protected
    • Genetically Thin
    • Living in Abundance
  • Group Archive
  • Other
    Forgiveness and Learning to Forgive for Good - Fred Luskin - http://www.thegabrielmethod.com/members/expert-series-fred-luskin/
    Overcoming your inner critic - Dr Lisa Firestone - http://www.thegabrielmethod.com/members/expert-series-lisa-firestone/
    Intuition and Weight Loss (Intuition visualisation practice) - http://www.thegabrielmethod.com/members/intuition-and-weight-loss/

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